We are a non-profit organisation run by a small team of volunteers who all have a lived experience of parental alienation.
Here are some bios of our team members (listed in alphabetical order).
btg-dad has been alienated from his three children since the summer of 2016, since their mother and him separated. His children are also denied any contact by their mother, with all members of his side of the family.
In terms of coping with parental alienation, a friend of btg-dad’s suggested he start a blog. He somewhat reluctantly gave it a go. The blog seemed to take on a life of it’s own and subsequently was turned into a non-profit organisation.
Like Psychman below, btg-dad is also a mental health nurse. This professional background has benefited him immensely in understanding the complex dynamics of parental alienation, understanding the much needed emotional support alienated parents, grandparents need and also in lobbying for reform.
Colin is an author and professional content writer who also has substantial experience in education and theatre.
He first learnt about parental alienation whilst supporting a victim of false allegations many years ago, and also featured parental alienation as a major theme in his debut novel “To Die For,” and had the pleasure of meeting the Peace Not Pas Team at his book launch.
His background in teaching and child protection underpins his child-focused opinions on parental alienation. Colin’s main role in Peace Not Pas is to write and edit for blogs, articles and any other publications that we produce. He currently works as “In As Many Words” which is where you can find out more about him.
After telling her ex-husband she wanted a divorce he immediately started alienating Debi’s daughter against her. However Debi did not realise that at the time. Within a few days of asking for a divorce Debi’s ex separated her from her daughter. Sadly Debi never spent anymore time with her daughter on my own.
Debi’s daughter chose to stay with her father. A proper conversation about living arrangements never took place. Debi was never able to do anything about it through a solicitor or family court. Debi’s ex went bankrupt and left her penniless.
Debi’s daughter has continued to be hateful towards her for many years on the back of her father’s negative influence. Alienation and estrangement have gone hand in hand for Debi, and she has now tragically been alienated from her grandchildren by her daughter for 13 years. Debi is currently in the process of setting up am now setting up Berkshire Grandparents Support Group which, in its online form is open to grandparents, younger siblings, aunts, uncles and cousins from anywhere in the world. The physical meeting group is for local people and anyone who wishes to travel from surrounding areas for support. Debi plans for there to be a website to follow shortly.
Psychman is a father to three elder sons, a daughter who lives with her mother, and a daughter who lives with him and her mother.
Psychman’s older daughter lived with him until the age of 7, in a psychologically damaging marriage. Psychman had not realised to what extent he had been psychologically manipulated, until he left her mother.
He went to court and following the divorce, went back to court to gain access to his daughter. Having gained access and debt to boot, Psychman was then emotively excluded by his ex, from having any contact with his daughter. Psychman’s daughter has also been excluded from her entire extended family; her grandparents and her brothers, all because her mother thinks this is right. Psychman’s daughter was prevented from attending her great grandmothers funeral, because it wasn’t deemed appropriate by her mother.
Psychman’s relationship with his elder daughter is improving, but it has taken 6 years to get to this point and it is still not where it should be. Psychman reports that there isn’t a day that goes by where he thinks he should have stayed in a loveless marriage for the sake of his child. But like many of us, Psychman believes we all have a right to be happy. And Psychman also rightly believes that he has every right to have the same relationship with his eldest daughter as he does with his youngest daughter.
Please Note: We pledge to never make a profit or any other form of financial gain from any individuals affected by parental alienation.
We will gladly signpost individuals to true professionals within our wider network who add value, deliver results and operate in line with our core principles. Contact us for more details.
We pledge to never request payment from such individuals, nor request a finder’s fee from these professionals for any referrals made.
The Peace Not Pas Team