PA: The constrictor tightens its grip

What follows is the second instalment of a story a father shared with us in a previous blog. He shares the care of his children who are now split between two households, his ex having moved hundreds of miles away with her boyfriend, having simply abducted them from school one day. He still has primary … Continue reading PA: The constrictor tightens its grip

We’re still being bullied and I’m scared, really scared!

Second guest post by one of our parents, a father who currently shares residency status with the children split between two households. I’ll admit it. I’m scared. Bullying is defined as someone with power over another using that power to cause them harm. I know that feeling too well. My former wife abused her position … Continue reading We’re still being bullied and I’m scared, really scared!

Parent Alienation: The poisoned apple never falls far from the tree.

There's an age-old saying about predicting the evolution of your other half "Want to know what she/he will be like later in life? Take a look at her/his mum/dad". In fact it's spawned a whole "like father like son, like mother like daughter" genre of articles. But what few of us properly appreciate about this … Continue reading Parent Alienation: The poisoned apple never falls far from the tree.

Parent Alienation in popular culture

Parent alienation has been hiding in plain sight for years. Watch this excellent explanation of PA assembled from clips from that most popular of tv series Desperate Housewives. I bet most people watching this can remember some of these scenes and not taking them that seriously or thinking through the implications....But now it has happened … Continue reading Parent Alienation in popular culture

WARNING! PAS: You’re next…

We recently wrote a provocative post suggesting that in an increasing number of cases, "single parenting" has become a lifestyle choice. We suggested that an alarming number of unscrupulous parents are deploying common tactics, shared within online networks, to strip assets, gain an income, often for life and then remove the targeted parent who no … Continue reading WARNING! PAS: You’re next…

I see you! Do you?

I am strong. But I am tired. I am physically tired from living with the mental anguish of grieving for children I love so dearly, who are close enough to hug, but who are now prevented, by you, from loving me. I am mentally tired from the pain of knowing I don't deserve that and … Continue reading I see you! Do you?

One of the Best Days of My Life

The recent snow here in the UK has reminded me of one of the best days of my life. A few years back now I went out for the day with my two boys, B and T; it had been snowing heavily and there was thick snow everywhere. What else is a loving father and … Continue reading One of the Best Days of My Life

Why does so much PA advice describe water to the drowning?

I once heard parent alienation, where one parent has to get through each day with a living bereavement, poignantly described as "drowning in a sea of hope being hit by endless waves of grief." If you've ever been unfortunate enough to see someone actually struggling in water, they are literally consumed by a largely alien, … Continue reading Why does so much PA advice describe water to the drowning?

2018: Will Family Compassion Finally Beat Alienation?

We quoted some potent statistics in the article we chose to herald in the New Year. The statistics came from a variety of reputable sources, but when compiled in one place they present the stark reality of parental alienation in the UK alone: 1 million children alienated from the non-resident parent (at least) 97% of … Continue reading 2018: Will Family Compassion Finally Beat Alienation?

If 2017 was the year of alienation, what will 2018 bring?

Article 24(3) of the EU Charter of Fundamental Rights states that: "Every child shall have the right to maintain on a regular basis a personal relationship and direct contact with both his/her parents, unless contrary to his/her interests". So how are those fine words working out in practice? Around 1 in 3 marriages end in … Continue reading If 2017 was the year of alienation, what will 2018 bring?