Growing up with Parental Alienation

I offered to write this piece as I wanted to share a view of parental alienation that I suspect is often missed. That of the child caught in the middle. My parents divorced when I was about nine. As divorces go, I imagine it was fairly amicable. When we (my younger brother, sister and I) … Continue reading Growing up with Parental Alienation

Touched by the Cruelty of Parental Alienation

I have been touched by the cruelty of parental alienation. Perhaps from a distance but enough to have made me actually cry last Christmas. And enough for me to get so frustrated at the futility of the battle that I could explode! “These young children were brainwashed, denied the truth and denied their father.”  You … Continue reading Touched by the Cruelty of Parental Alienation

Mission Debate 2: Educating People on the lasting negative impact of #PAS

High conflict divorce, often deliberately provoked by an adversarial approach to legal representation and a culture of litigation, has lasting negative impacts on parents and children. This has been identified as one of the root causes of parent alienation or #PAS. In your experience, what are the lasting negative impacts of high conflict divorce and … Continue reading Mission Debate 2: Educating People on the lasting negative impact of #PAS

Your Kids Don’t Need a Martyr….They Need YOU!

As we enter the traditional remembrance season during which those who sacrificed themselves for the "greater good" are recognised, it is worth reflecting that men have been programmed for self-sacrifice since, well forever. They instinctively sleep by the bedroom door, allegedly hard wired to be the first reactor, defender, first victim should something nasty invade the … Continue reading Your Kids Don’t Need a Martyr….They Need YOU!

Today Was a Tough Day 

Today was a tough day for me. Today it was my birthday. The day I would have loved to have shared with my grandchildren, but I couldn't. The reason why? I am an alienated  grandmother, that is the reason why. For those of you unaware of what parental alienation actually is please see here for … Continue reading Today Was a Tough Day 

Dungeons and Dragons

Dear reader, It occurred to me today to think about parental alienation from a different angle. How do people become the person that stops one person from being involved in their child's life when they are divorced? Perhaps its stems from problems they already have? Please don't think for one moment that I'm condoning their … Continue reading Dungeons and Dragons

A Birthday, an Alienated One

Today, October 15,  my daughter turns five. I will call her using my tablet, that’s our channel. I hope the tablet is turned on. If the tablet is on, I hope she hears it and is allowed to answer. It’s been like this since February. A period after which the terrible and sinister powers of … Continue reading A Birthday, an Alienated One

An Alienated Grandfather’s Thoughts

It has been almost two years now that I have struggled on as an alienated grandfather. I have the memories still fresh in my mind of the happy and treasured times I once had with my grandchildren. For those of you unaware of what parental alienation actually is please see here for full details. "It … Continue reading An Alienated Grandfather’s Thoughts

Falling in Love and Parental Alienation

"Falling in love is not an act of will. It is not a conscious choice. No matter how open to or eager for it we may be, the experience may still elude us. Contrarily, the experience may capture us at times when we are definitely not seeking it, when it is inconvenient and undesirable." Wrote … Continue reading Falling in Love and Parental Alienation

My Life, then Parental Alienation

When deciding to write about my story, I wondered where to start. Before all this happened to me I was just a mother, a mother in law and a grandmother. I worked in customer services for a well known company and life for me was good. I was happy that my children were all married and … Continue reading My Life, then Parental Alienation