Empaths vs Narcissists: people are not all dark or all light.

When I hear people simplify parent alienation dynamics into those with personality disorders vs those without, or the abnormal vs the normal, it troubles me. The act of alienating one parent from their own children on purpose, despite full knowledge of what that will do to the children in particular, may seem like the work … Continue reading Empaths vs Narcissists: people are not all dark or all light.

Why does so much PA advice describe water to the drowning?

I once heard parent alienation, where one parent has to get through each day with a living bereavement, poignantly described as "drowning in a sea of hope being hit by endless waves of grief." If you've ever been unfortunate enough to see someone actually struggling in water, they are literally consumed by a largely alien, … Continue reading Why does so much PA advice describe water to the drowning?

The Story of a Great Man and a Great Father who Suffered at the Mercy of an Alienating Parent

"It’s his story yes. But it’s being told so others will continue to fight. It’s to raise awareness about Parental Alienation. You and many other fathers have said the exact same words “...I was there.” This is NOT okay. I watched a great man be torn apart. I watched everyone turn their backs on him … Continue reading The Story of a Great Man and a Great Father who Suffered at the Mercy of an Alienating Parent

The Sheep Skinned Wolf

‘Narcissists attack the things you value most, because those are the things in life you will defend most passionately. And make no mistake- it’s intentional" [The following was written by an anonymous contributor.] Covert (not openly acknowledged or displayed) emotional manipulation and abuse occurs when a person who wants to exert power and control over … Continue reading The Sheep Skinned Wolf

Parental Alienation has Another Side

Parental alienation is a term that is becoming popular and for good reason. It describes a situation where a child exhibits unjustified hostility towards one parent. The general idea is that the child has been manipulated by one parent to view a capable and loving parent as bad. Of course this is nothing more or … Continue reading Parental Alienation has Another Side

Has parent alienation become a lifestyle brand?

I was triggered to write that headline by a programme on Woman's Hour on Radio 4 this week which explored changing attitudes to what it still called "single parenting" in the UK. This has been a subject that has troubled me for years as it is clear to me that, probably since the early 80s … Continue reading Has parent alienation become a lifestyle brand?

Where is the Justice?

A couple of days ago I went for a mediation session. I am what is known as an alienated parent. Following our separation in the summer of 2016, my ex has continuously denied me contact with my three young children. She has brainwashed them against me; to the point of them no longer calling me … Continue reading Where is the Justice?

Don’t stand between a lioness and her cubs!

I'm sure you've heard this phrase before. It's a romantic way of describing the strength of the maternal instinct as illustrated in nature by lionesses, mother bears, wolves etc fending off aggressive mates or other threats to her offspring. It's an oft-quoted cliche used by people defending alienating behaviour as it: casts the allegedly protective … Continue reading Don’t stand between a lioness and her cubs!

149 Days… And counting

149 days 3,576 hours 214,560 seconds Once midnight strikes, it will mark 150 days that I have gone without seeing my daughter. A child that I cared for since birth, raised, pulled the first tooth, taught how to read, helped with her homework, coached her soccer team and put to sleep every night. Every night. … Continue reading 149 Days… And counting

A better way to end PA than just feeding the caged beast.

"It is like being stuck in a cage of pain" One of the many things that troubles me about combating the social disease of parent alienation is that it makes people do things they know are wrong, out of desperation . Because, to be blunt, when a parent believes that someone is abusing their children, … Continue reading A better way to end PA than just feeding the caged beast.