WARNING! PAS: You’re next…

We recently wrote a provocative post suggesting that in an increasing number of cases, “single parenting” has become a lifestyle choice.

We suggested that an alarming number of unscrupulous parents are deploying common tactics, shared within online networks, to strip assets, gain an income, often for life and then remove the targeted parent who no longer fits their narrative.

It has stirred up quite a response, because it’s painfully close to the naked truth, it seems.

Given the very many cases and situations we sadly hear in our various forums and platforms, we’re not surprised.

Just this week we heard of one mother who worked in human resources with her ex, spent two years sacking most of her friends, moved into his house after she was made redundant, started a family with him and then, three years later, “sacked him” too. She then blocked out her colleagues and spent years alienating him from their kids because he was an inconvenient truth.

Yet what is equally striking, is that for every decent human being who sees these people for who they are, with their petty but cruel behaviour and the victim narrative they create to garner sympathy for denying their former partner time to love and care for their own children, there seem to be twice as many people who turn a blind eye to this alienating abuse. They are supposedly friends, family and acquaintances yet by doing this, these people are condoning and enabling the obvious damage being caused to the children concerned.

You don’t have to actively participate in the gossip, to agree or even to encourage the alienating parent. Simply doing nothing, indulging them yet engaging with them makes the enabler complicit in what is now widely recognised as child abuse.

As Edmund Burke said ” “All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing”

Now, undertaking a calculated campaign of cruel spite is obviously deplorable from a wider ethical standpoint. But it’s much worse than that because it is deeply personal and will, very likely, have direct consequences for the enablers, the people who ignore the signs and choose to do nothing.


  • It makes what should be unacceptable behaviour an acceptable norm which, before you blink will spread to other families
  • Because, if the alienator, a member of your social circle can abuse their own child’s father/mother in this calculated and relentless way,  then how can you trust them with:
    • your husband/wife?
    • your children?
    • your contacts?
    • your life?

Let’s cut to the chase here.

Despite what the alienator may say, you know enough about the targeted parent to understand that they are dedicated to their kids and desperate to do the right thing.

You have seen them fight against overwhelming odds, desperate to stay in touch.

You’ve witnessed them turn up at school or events despite having to put up with incredible levels of discomfort and abuse.

You have seen your “friend” destroy the children’s love of their own parent.

You have watched how they have even used new partners to cause additional pain and abuse, before they too have left.

So why on earth would the non-resident parent still try to stick around unless they loved their children dearly?

Do you seriously believe they are trying to see their own kids just to annoy let alone “abuse”someone they no longer love?


Above all, have you ever stopped to ask yourself?

  • who the real problem parent is?
  • what sort of person would persist with so many cruel and petty actions that are causing so much damage to their children?
  • why the often hysterical parent won’t just do the right thing?
  • why they have prolonged this revenge parenting for so long?
  • what are they covering up?
  • what does this say about their judgement and their mental health?
  • how they behave with your kids/husband/wife when you’re not there?

but most importantly

what would they do to me if they ever fell out with me too?


Be honest.

How many parents who demonstrate these relentless alienating behaviours that clearly damage the children let alone the target parent, do you actually respect?

How many are or were independently successful and well balanced in their own right before they married?

How many actually only have what they have because they took it from their former partner yet can’t even show them basic respect?

How many of these people would you trust not to do EXACTLY the same to you?

Are you still happy to sit and listen while they spread poison at social events, at school or at your house?

What exactly would you do if they turned their sights on you and how would you want your network to behave?

How do you know they haven’t already?


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5 thoughts on “WARNING! PAS: You’re next…

  1. In Japan, I experience a strong tendency of mothers choosing the lifestyle of single mothers in a still patriarchal society. One can even observe a pattern of getting a child from foreigners and then “sending the father back to their home country.” Thanks for sharing all your helpful information about PAS.

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    • We are glad to hear you find the information we share useful. Your comment regarding certain tendencies in Japan is tragic to hear about. I am aware of there being many non-Japanese national fathers, being alienated by their ex partners, and the children remain in Japan, against the wishes of the fathers. So tragic.

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  2. The problem is rooted in feminist lawyers judges and mothers who pretend to have children’s interests at heart but actually only interested in denegrating fathers and couldn’t care about the relationship between the children and their father which they are damaging!! Most PAS perpetrators are narcissistic sociopaths hell bent on alienating fathers to the detriment of their own children’s best interests.

    King Solomon recorded it first thousands of years ago. Some poisonous mothers are prepared to cleave their children in two rather than give equal access to the father!!

    Studies by Kelly and Lamb have shown how children’s best interests are served by having equal unrestricted access to both parents, but sadly these feminists bitches believe they have more rights over their children than fathers and seek to alienate their children to get this.

    The tragedy is that children only ‘work this out’ way too late in life sometimes only when they have their own children or read the records of the court cases and emails from their fathers desperate to stay in their lives!!

    There are no words to describe the evil that these feminist alienators inflict in their own children. But sadly – if you look closely, most come from desperately dysfunctional families themselves, so they are only perpetuating the crazy behavior they have been taught. Mostly predicated on fear abandonment and rejection in their own lives, so they sadly know no different and cannot see the wood for the tees.

    All this at the inevitable suffering of the children who absolutely deserve the right to be patented equally by their mother and father.

    Only when Gods laws become mans laws will children stand a chance of having their rights protected.

    Until then these freaks will continue to destroy their own children’s lives oblivious to the pain and damage they are causing to them, fathers and society in general. The family nucleus is constantly under threat and Satan is alive and well destroying families every day.

    There is no hope to reverse the madness. As humans we have brought it in ourselves. Selfish self centered mothers with no moral or Christian fibre will continue their trail of destruction and ruin children’s lives.

    God help us



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