You will see a variety of terms used to describe the continued active involvement of both parents in the emotional, physical and developmental lives of their children following separation, over and above the financial obligations, of course.
They include “co-operative parenting”; “parallel parenting”; “shared contact”; “equal visitation” and “equal parenting”.
But as with emotive terminology like “custody” or “contact” or “allocated time” anything implying ownership or control of the children by one party is clumsy semantically, contrary to the spirit of the most natural of concepts and can cause more harm than good.
The term shared parenting, on the other hand, suggests that both parents have an equitable responsibility and say in the upbringing of their children.
It implies shared guidance, co-operation, responsibility, effort and love and reflects the fact that raising children within or outside of a marriage is an ongoing, selfless commitment that puts the needs of the children first.
We’re very interested to hear what our Peace not PAS community thinks, however.
So please do join the debate and contribute your comments below as we’re certainly open to constructive suggestions.